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  • Dating While Divorcing

    A common question when a client first comes in to see me is whether they can start dating. It’s a good question. In times past, when you needed to find a fault in order to divorce, a person who committed that fault could have legal consequences including those of support, property and rights to access to children. However, there are few states which still allow fault, and all states have provision ...
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  • Talking to the Enemy, Communication with the Other Party

    In any other kind of legal action – criminal or civil or divorce – your attorney is going to tell you not to have any communication with the opposing party, represented or not. There is too much risk that you, as a party, will say the wrong thing, make admissions that will be damaging to your case, or create new conflict, making an already difficult situation worse. But what if the opposing party ...
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  • Reasons Why You Should be Grateful to Your Ex

    Divorce is almost always considered as one of the top five stressors in life, often times higher than death of a family member, and with good reason. Your marriage and your relationship were a big part of your goals, your dreams for your life. Divorce is the death of those dreams, the death of the happy two parent family that everyone seems to have. It is especially stressful when the person who ...
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  • Self-Care Tips for Those Who Are Going Through a Divorce

    Divorce is almost always an emotionally charged experience. In fact, it is one of the most stressful things a person can endure. However, with a few simple tips, you can not only get through it but get through it with grace, so you can move forward with the next chapter in your life. Below is a list of some self-care tips that will help get you through your divorce: Stay active: During a divorce, ...
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  • New Traditions

    Traditions and rituals create continuity with our communities, our families, especially our children, and with our past. Traditions and rituals can be deeply satisfying, and give a wonderful sense of perspective as we look back over years. They can also be stifling and stressful. Especially if you are restructuring your family through a divorce or separation, your old traditions may no longer work ...
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  • Reducing Stress

    Stress has a negative effect on your health, and your ability to navigate your day to day life. Stress activates fight or flight responses which dumps stress hormones into your body, which can override the brain’s pre-frontal cortex, the part of the brain which makes rational choices. If you are reacting badly to stress, the stress tends to escalate, especially when you are going through a ...
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  • Your divorce lawyer can help you sell your house!

    You are getting divorced, and you know you have to sell your house. You also know you need to have an attorney, but every time you open that monthly bill, you really don’t want to incur any more fees than you have to. Besides, you have a great realtor, why would you spend money talking to an attorney? You just want to sell the house fast, for top dollar, and then have the title company hold the ...
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  • BEING A FRIEND WHEN YOUR FRIEND IS DIVORCING

    Telling people that you are going through a divorce can be like telling people you have cancer. Some people will run as fast as they can the other direction, because they don’t want to get involved. Some people want to “take your side” and let you know they never did like your spouse anyway. Some people want to show support by telling their own stories that just add burden to the person who needs ...
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  • Your Attorney Can Help You Sell Your House!!

    You are getting divorced, and you know you have to sell your house. You also know you need to have an attorney, but every time you open that monthly bill, you really don’t want to incur any more fees than you have to. Besides, you have a great realtor, why would you spend money talking to an attorney? You just want to sell the house fast, for top dollar, and then have the title company hold the ...
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  • How Property Is Divided in a Divorce

    When you get divorced, you know that you will usually not get all of the property in the marital residence. It makes sense to you that the property will be divided. But what does that mean when you are trying to plan for what the next phase of your life? Under Oregon law, marital property is defined as all property owned by either the husband or the wife, including property that was brought into ...
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  • Ten Proven Stress Reducers

    1. Schedule a realistic day. When you think about what you “need” to do that day, and create a mental list, only it will really take you a week to do the things on your list, the list and the frustration stays in your head. 2. Be Flexible. Do you really have to do everything perfectly, or it is acceptable to compromise and move on with the rest of your day. 3. Let it go. Once you realize that the ...
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  • IS THERE LIFE AFTER LOVE?

    Going through a divorce is generally regarded as one of the most difficult times in a person’s life, even more so than the death of a spouse. In death, there is finality. In divorce, there are all kinds of ties and loose ends that linger and boundaries that have to redefined in relationship to kids, extended family and financial ties. The divorce may not have been your idea, and divorce, even for ...
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  • SUPERVISED PARENTING TIME -- Who needs that?

    Sometimes we all need a little help, and in a divorce context, sometimes that little bit of help means that someone is supervising the parenting time with your child and the other parent or maybe the only way you are able to see your child is if someone is supervising. What’s that all about? Supervised parenting time most often occurs when there has been an allegation of physical abuse of a child, ...
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  • PREMARITAL, POSTMARITAL AND MARITAL SETTLEMENT AGREEMENTS: what are contracts doing in divorce cases?

    If there is any single point that drives most nonlawyers (and most lawyers for that matter!) crazy about family law, it is that there is a morass of gray areas. What child custody means is not set out in the statute, nor in the case law, but we have a statute on the factors to award custody. We know that there is a statute stating that if property was acquired by gift or inheritance, it is not ...
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  • Anger In the Midst of Divorce

    It is an often repeated phrase that everybody goes temporarily insane when they get divorce. Calm rational people who in normal circumstances function in a reasonably competent matter suddenly have daily flashes of anger. Things that most people would be able to just let go become the “I have to assert my boundaries” and refuse to budge on picking up the kids at 5:45 pm rather than 6 pm. So what ...
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