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  • BEING A FRIEND WHEN YOUR FRIEND IS DIVORCING

    Telling people that you are going through a divorce can be like telling people you have cancer. Some people will run as fast as they can the other direction, because they don’t want to get involved. Some people want to “take your side” and let you know they never did like your spouse anyway. Some people want to show support by telling their own stories that just add burden to the person who needs ...
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  • Your Attorney Can Help You Sell Your House!!

    You are getting divorced, and you know you have to sell your house. You also know you need to have an attorney, but every time you open that monthly bill, you really don’t want to incur any more fees than you have to. Besides, you have a great realtor, why would you spend money talking to an attorney? You just want to sell the house fast, for top dollar, and then have the title company hold the ...
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  • How Property Is Divided in a Divorce

    When you get divorced, you know that you will usually not get all of the property in the marital residence. It makes sense to you that the property will be divided. But what does that mean when you are trying to plan for what the next phase of your life? Under Oregon law, marital property is defined as all property owned by either the husband or the wife, including property that was brought into ...
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  • Ten Proven Stress Reducers

    1. Schedule a realistic day. When you think about what you “need” to do that day, and create a mental list, only it will really take you a week to do the things on your list, the list and the frustration stays in your head. 2. Be Flexible. Do you really have to do everything perfectly, or it is acceptable to compromise and move on with the rest of your day. 3. Let it go. Once you realize that the ...
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  • IS THERE LIFE AFTER LOVE?

    Going through a divorce is generally regarded as one of the most difficult times in a person’s life, even more so than the death of a spouse. In death, there is finality. In divorce, there are all kinds of ties and loose ends that linger and boundaries that have to redefined in relationship to kids, extended family and financial ties. The divorce may not have been your idea, and divorce, even for ...
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  • SUPERVISED PARENTING TIME -- Who needs that?

    Sometimes we all need a little help, and in a divorce context, sometimes that little bit of help means that someone is supervising the parenting time with your child and the other parent or maybe the only way you are able to see your child is if someone is supervising. What’s that all about? Supervised parenting time most often occurs when there has been an allegation of physical abuse of a child, ...
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  • PREMARITAL, POSTMARITAL AND MARITAL SETTLEMENT AGREEMENTS: what are contracts doing in divorce cases?

    If there is any single point that drives most nonlawyers (and most lawyers for that matter!) crazy about family law, it is that there is a morass of gray areas. What child custody means is not set out in the statute, nor in the case law, but we have a statute on the factors to award custody. We know that there is a statute stating that if property was acquired by gift or inheritance, it is not ...
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  • Anger In the Midst of Divorce

    It is an often repeated phrase that everybody goes temporarily insane when they get divorce. Calm rational people who in normal circumstances function in a reasonably competent matter suddenly have daily flashes of anger. Things that most people would be able to just let go become the “I have to assert my boundaries” and refuse to budge on picking up the kids at 5:45 pm rather than 6 pm. So what ...
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  • When Your Final Divorce Judgment Doesn't Finalize Your Mortgage Obligations

    It’s been months since you and your spouse moved into separate residences. Even more months have gone by while you went through the divorce process. You finally went to court, or made an agreement as to all of the details that you needed to make to hit the ground running to finally start leading your new life. Or did all of the details get covered? Your existing mortgage company is not necessarily ...
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  • Spousal Support as Income for Home Loans

    By Arthur Saito Many clients come to us with questions regarding the purchase or refinance of a residential home. This is particularly true in the area of family law. Often, one spouse wants to retain the marital home, perhaps to keep the children in a stable environment or because it is a good investment. Sometimes they simply love the home. If spouses come to an agreement that one spouse will ...
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  • Stalking: It Isn't Just Strangers Ducking Into Dark Alleys

    When I hear the word “stalking” I immediately conjure up images of a stranger in a dark hat with a dark trench coat, hiding in the edge of a dark alley, watching the unsuspecting person, and following them with evil intent. Not so. Stalking in a dark alley, watching and following a person with evil intent may not be enough to get a stalking order. To obtain a stalking protective order, a ...
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  • Is Divorce the Right Option For You?

    Of the major life stressors, including death of a child, death of a spouse, loss of employment, divorce and major medical conditions, divorce usually ranks second or third. I have had many people tell me that they think divorce, particularly divorce when there are minor children, is more stressful than death of a family member. After all, death has finality, and with divorce, you have to keep ...
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  • DEFINING CHILD CUSTODY Part II

    Let’s look at each of the “major” decision areas, beginning with religion. For many parents, raising their children in their particular religious beliefs and practices is very important to them as parents. Their religious beliefs are fundamental to who they are, and they want their children to share in those beliefs. So, if you have legal custody, and you are a Protestant Christian, then you have ...
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  • SUPERVISED PARENTING TIME - Who needs that?

    Sometimes we all need a little help, and in a divorce context, sometimes that little bit of help means that someone is supervising the parenting time with your child and the other parent or maybe the only way you are able to see your child is if someone is supervising. What’s that all about? Supervised parenting time most often occurs when there has been an allegation of physical abuse of a child, ...
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  • MOVING AWAY MOVING ON WITH CHILDREN

    Your divorce is finally over. You and your ex-spouse have a parenting plan that allows your children to have significant time with both parents, and your children have adjusted well to the schedule. You are the primary parent, but the other parent has every other weekend, one overnight in the midweek, and half of the weeks in the summer. Life is good. You move on with your life as a single parent. ...
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